Blame Game

Woke up to curses and abuses this morning in my usually blissfully peaceful neighbourhood, wondering who was screaming so loudly at the unearthly hour of 7 am on a weekend. Much to the amusement of others around, it was the 'highly intelligent, bright and cool' dude of the colony screaming his lungs out because he didnt get through his placement. What caught my attention the most was the fact that he wasn't blaming himself for lacking the skills to get into the particular company he desired but, instead he chose to wax eloquent on abuses out of his wide vocabulary on the poor HR.

Now this attitude early in the morning send me back in time to about 8 months back when placements were going in full swing in my own college. There we were, a mixed batch of students with those who hoped to be placed, those who knew they would be placed and those who had no hope at all for obvious reasons. Looking around my milieu on the first day of my placements, sitting with some 150 students, I wondered who would fall into which category; the taken and the ones left. I got my answer within a matter of two days but what surprised, shocked and rather amused me the most was the attitude of the ones who were not selected. Of course there were tears, disappointed faces, angry scowls of rejection, etc; but noone, I mean absolutely noone blamed themselves for not getting selected. There were abuses againt the head HR who happened to be an alumi of the college, some cursing that the company should shut down and others going that extra mile of saying that they were too good for the company. Now praising yourself is a different issue and maintaining a practical sense about your qualities is another one.

Coming back to attitude of blaming others, is what I call normal human tendency. I have seen varieties of this attitude from me, my immediate surroundings and who can forget the 'The Great Indian Tamasha' taking place in the Parliament. Recently there was a case of a girl from Kolkata who was paralysed due to the tension and depression she suffered on some reality show. As usual there was the same old case of blame game, the parents for once didnt stop to think that you cant clap with one hand hence the fault lies with them too.

The unrelenting pressure and cut-throat competition of modern times has left us bereaved of the very qualities which make us human. We are called the higher species for our trademark qualities of compassion, understanding and love. But the saddest part is that I see more of these qualities in animals than in humans around me.